Wednesday, May 18, 2011

The where and the why

  So here I am, sifting through the rubble of a relationship that is now over after eight years.
Once again, someone I loved pushed a very sensitive button and I broke out the matches
and burned down the mission.  I wonder, fellow men of this life, are these buttons within
every member of the male species?  Are all of us males prone to commit acts of arson
within the confines of a committed relationship when a nerve is struck or feelings of betrayal
are suddenly front and center in one's mind.  I am my mothers sons I suppose.  I can
persevere and love unconditionally and give everything I have to other humans but when
I feel betrayed, the matches aren't far behind.  As I sift through the rubble of yet another
relationship gone boom,  I once again ponder the concept of having soul mates in this life.
Within the ashes of yet another failed relationship, I wonder how I spent
15 years loving a woman without a single destructive impulse taking shape
within me.  Those 15 years were easy, the rest....... not so much.  I go back
to the memories of those years, that particular woman.  Within the ashes of
yet another relationship gone boom, I feel that void yet again.  I am my mothers
son.  I possess warmth but I am coldest when reacting in self defense.  Perhaps
simplicity is my thing.  Perhaps my nature, though I defied the odds once, isn't
quite ready for yet another journey towards that Bermuda Triangle known
as a committed relationship.  Perhaps simplicity is in order at this point.  Now,
as I sift through the ashes, I applaud myself for having a friend with benefits
in my life.  In 2011, perhaps simpler is better in my case.

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